Sunday, March 9, 2014

senior reflection paper.

I had to write a senior reflection as part of my final for my capstone class. if you're not familiar with SPU, some of the terms (UCOR, UFDN, FCS, etc) may be unfamiliar, they're just classes I've taken. FCS stands for Family and Consumer Science which is the department my major is in.
So, here it is. The last four years of my life. Summed up in two, single-spaced pages.



Senior Reflection Paper

Throughout the last four years I’ve grown in more ways than I thought possible: academically, spiritually, and emotionally, just to name a few. It’s difficult to put my experiences, lessons and dreams into words and to quantify it all in a matter of two pages. While at college, I’ve learned so much and have accomplished more than I ever thought I could. But let’s back up, shall we? My name is Chandler Birky. I am a senior at Seattle Pacific University, and will graduate in June with a degree in Fashion Merchandising. I was born and raised in Salem, OR, but have lived in Olympia, WA since I was 13. I’ve been at SPU since I was a freshman, and have never looked back. Let me explain that. I applied to three different universities, two of which were in California. When I was a senior in high school, I was convinced I was going to go to an out-of-state school. After I had been accepted into all three schools, I started to panic; worried I’d end up making the wrong decision. I remember someone along the way telling me, “you’re going to like wherever you end up going. College is what you make of it.” That advice has stuck with me even four years later, and guess what? They were right. After doing overnight visits, comparing scholarship offers and major programs, and some soul-searching, I ended up choosing SPU. I never considered transferring anywhere else and am truly satisfied with my undergraduate education and everything I’ve been able to experience.

Attending college is beneficial for many reasons. Perhaps one of the most obvious is to receive an education. Throughout my education, I’ve identified what my passions and strengths are, as well as what I don’t enjoy. As a result, I will hopefully find a job or vocation that matches my personality. Traditionally, vocation has been synonymous with a career. But perhaps vocation is more closely related to a calling. For example, in the article “Toward the Fullness of Life”, Marie Dennis describes vocation (particularly Christian vocation) as “not so much about a career as about a call to the fullness of life – an invitation not to leave the world, but to embrace it” (Dennis, 2011). This is very similar to SPU’s motto: Engaging the culture, changing the world. As Christians, we are called to love others and spread the Gospel. This can be done in many different ways. Whether it’s on the mission field or in an office cubicle, we are to engage the culture in how we treat other people, striving to show others the grace and love Christ has shown us. The article also discusses how vocations relate to an individual’s values and authenticity. A vocation should be a reflection of what one is passionate about. Thus, my future vocation will involve helping people and improving lives in some shape or form. In practical terms, I am not 100% sure how my vision will materialize itself. Since my major is fashion merchandising, and I am passionate about clothing, I would love to do something that involves both clothing and some type of non-profit organization.  Since I’ve only recently had this idea, I haven’t done a ton of research into it, but an organization like Dress For Success, which helps low-income women with dressing professionally for interviews, would be a good place to start. Or perhaps my vocation will primarily focus on helping people and improving lives, and fashion will be secondary.  What is important is that I have a direction, however, I am unsure of where I will end up. But who really has it figured out at age 21 anyway?

When I entered SPU as a freshman, I identified myself as Christian. I didn’t really need to think twice about it; I was raised in a Christian home and went to all the camps and retreats possible growing up. I knew I wanted to go to a university that emphasized Christianity so I could grow even more in my faith. So much so, that I didn’t even apply to a “secular” school. That being said, my faith has been stretched in ways I couldn’t have imagined in college. My faith journey has had its less fruitful, even doubtful, periods. But that is natural, in fact: it’s healthy. One of the most important lessons I’ve learned in college is to question. For the most part, before I came to college, I just accepted what my teachers, pastors, and mentors have said. Only when I was in a new environment filled with new surroundings, people, and ideas did I begin to examine what I had once been taught. I believe not taking things at face value and instead looking deeper into an issue/topic is a sign of maturity. Peter Abelard, 12th Century French philosopher and theologian, once said: “the key to wisdom is this – constant and frequent questioning, for by doubting we are led to question and by questioning we arrive at the truth.” From my experience, the periods of heaviest doubts have led to the greatest leaps in faith. The more I experience God’s grace daily, the more I am motivated and drawn to replicate that grace in my own life. I feel a sense of moral obligation to help those less fortunate than I am. Whatever my vocation ends up being, I hope I am able to positively impact the lives of individuals and families.

Even though I’ve majored in fashion merchandising, I’ve taken a wide range of classes ranging from subjects in fashion, literature, religion, science, philosophy, and psychology. Throughout the common curriculum, I’ve taken classes unique to SPU including USEM, UCOR, and UFDN. In UFDN classes, I’ve been exposed to the history of Christianity, as well as Scriptures and theology. These are somewhat self-explanatory in subject matter, but nevertheless are important to understand as the origins of Christianity influence our life and how we live 2,000 years later. One of the most difficult classes in the common curriculum for me was UCOR 3000: Belief, Morality and the Modern Mind. I had never taken a philosophy course before, and a majority of the material was difficult to digest. For example, questions such as the different views of hell, creation, etc. were questions that I hadn’t even thought of, or at least in much depth. I’ve realized throughout college, that although I am valuable and have worth as human, I am an insignificant blip on the time spectrum. Throughout the exploratory curriculum, I’ve taken classes such as Literature and Faith, Animal Biology, and Spanish. Literature and Faith was one of the first classes I took my freshman year, and helped me to see literature in a different faith-based perspective. Animal Biology was interesting because it was taught from a creationism standpoint rather than an evolutionary standpoint. The most impactful class in terms of knowing my place in the world as well as the implications of my future vocation has been this one, FCS Senior Capstone. Throughout our discussions of what FCS is, public policy, service, ethics, and vocation, I’ve understood more of how I can impact the people I serve and improve their lives in an ethical and faith-based manner.


Although the future might be unknown, I feel I am prepared for whatever comes my way. The skills I’ve learned in college are invaluable, and I will continue to build upon them. I am so excited for the next chapter of my life. Hindsight is 20/20, and I’m confident that the implications of my education will show throughout other areas of both my personal and professional life in the future. This quote from Carol Burnett is all encompassing concerning the notion of learning: “we don’t stop going to school when we graduate”. Life is full of chances to explore, to grow, to learn. Just because my formal education may be coming to an end does not mean my education of people, dreams, and goals are over. I am ready to graduate, to go out into the world, and continue this crazy adventure called life.

Monday, December 30, 2013

it's been awhile.....really.

a LONG WHILE. it's been almost three months since i've posted anything - and i can blame that on a few things. [first - and most obviously] - school. taking 17 credits took more time than i anticipated. [second] - nannying. i did more nannying this quarter than i have done any other quarter. i did it this summer, and a few of the families i nanny for wanted to continue into the fall, and i won't say no to extra money ;) plus the lil nuggets are so cute. [third] - laziness. i know i always blame my lack of blogging on laziness, but i felt it more in the past 6 months or so than i ever have. every time i thought "'maybe i should write my thoughts down about that' or 'i should recap x experience'" i never felt like i had the energy to sit down and write. it's funny because as much time as school took up for me this quarter, none of them were writing-heavy. and maybe that's why i didn't feel like writing anything on here, because i wasn't really in the habit of it anyhow. so as of now, one of my goals (not resolutions, i hate those) for 2014 is to write on here more consistently. 
some most of my blog ideas had(ve?) to do with evolving personally. deep stuff, really. and i haven't really had a chance until now to sit down, decompress, and mentally chew on thoughts that have been rambling around in my head for the past few months. i recently hung out with two of my besties from high school - carly & jourdan. over a warm fire & wine - jourdan and i talked about how different our lives are even from just 4 years ago in high school. i view things so differently, feel more mature and responsible, and hopefully look a little older ;) (tell that to the people who ID me 100% of the time) life begins out of your comfort zone, i've found. there are seriously thousands (if not more) blog posts on that exact subject. believe me, i've read a few. what i've found is that everyone's experiences are different. example: a friend posted this blog post: http://wanderonwards.com/2013/12/30/23-things-to-do-instead-of-getting-engaged-before-youre-23/
there are definitely some good points in this article, but i can't help feeling that the author of it is somewhat bitter. she talked about seeing other people getting married/engaged in their early twenties, and goes on basically to say that it's a stupid idea and people don't know what they're doing. to that, i have to assume she has never been in love.you can do all of these things with your boyfriend/husband and be just as happy and adventurous (maybe not #3 & #11...) this blog post is a perfect example of 90% of the attitudes girls have at SPU. small school, 3-to-1 ratio, Christian, ring-by-spring, MRS degree, blah blah blah. you get the picture. sometimes you can feel suffocated by it. trust me. and i never pictured myself at 21 seriously dating someone. in fact, i would have probably thought you were crazy. but that's what's so great about the future - you can't predict it. you can be bitter and depressed that you don't have someone to be with, but having that attitude ultimately isn't going to get you to the preferred end goal. another element the post is missing is anything about the Christian perspective. and believe me, i've read enough about those too. i.e. how to pray for your future husband (GAG). this is a great blog post from a Christian perspective on how your spouse is not your end-all, be-all: http://theartinlife.wordpress.com/2013/07/22/my-husband-is-not-my-soul-mate/
ugh, i just love this post. it's all about how love isn't a fairy tale or a feeling - but a choice to love your husband/wife every day. my favorite part from the post: "You could have a great marriage with any number of compatible people. There is no ONE PERSON for you. But once you marry someone, that person becomes your one person." love love love that. so many people buy into the lie that "there is only one person for me, and what if i never find them or find them too late?" they've never thought of the notion that soulmates may not exist. or at least how they pictured them to be. you don't have one chance - you have multiple chances. you can be in love more than once. after all, God gives us new chances everyday. imagine if he gave us just one chance to be good, upstanding, God-fearing Christian human beings? it's ridiculous. the whole idea of finding a soulmate just doesn't make sense - but most of us (girls at least) have grown up with it. almost subconsciously, really. that is something that needs to change in middle/high school youth groups. BUT that's a post for another day. 

all this to say that everyone has a different experience. everyone has a story. good or bad. exciting or less-than-exciting. freeing or stifling. some people get married at age 19. some wait until way later. some travel the world. some find the same experiences closer to home. and you know what? it's okay. it's awesome. that's what makes being a young person so wonderful - meeting people going through something completely different than you - and still having something to talk about because you're trying to figure it out like they are. i'm 21. and i've definitely matured since 16, 18...but i still have maturing to do. growth. experiences. life. with or without a significant other.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

this is as random as it gets.

whenever i can't think of anything/don't have the energy to write about something deep or thoughtful, i resort to the collection of random thoughts floating through my head at this current point in time.....so here goes. enjoy.

krazy glue works wonders. my boots are good as new (for now). i'm beginning to think a chocolate-covered granola bar was not the best way to start my day....when was the last time I washed my hair? what should I have for lunch? Is it bad to eat sweet potato fries three days in a row? this font sucks. i'm going to change it. what am i forgetting to write down in my planner? is the sun going away for good? i'm sick of the rain already. why did i stay up until 3am last night? where are the best pumpkin patches in seattle? now i want apple cider. caramel apple cider from starbucks. why do people fail us? how can we believe lies so easily and not see something coming? why is it so easy to transition into the weekend and so difficult to transition out of it? WHY did i stay up until 3am last night? i'm hungry. i'm going to see if i have more sweet potato fries.....

Wednesday, September 4, 2013

title goes here.

apparently that time i mentioned that would be "soon" in my last post is now. i am slightly forced into this - my house is currently being spider-bombed and i am quarantined to my room on the third floor.
so. where do i begin? i have HARDLY blogged - or even written in a journal - at all this summer. the bad memory in me is shaming myself...how will you remember what you did for those few months? while the laziness in me is haphazardly throwing up a hand and saying "whatever. oh well."

let's summarize (no joke - i just wrote "summerize". either summer has sunk in for too long or i have been out of school for too long. or maybe both) what has occupied my time since june:

nannying.
working at weddings.
dentist. (cavities + upcoming wisdom teeth extraction)
birthdays.
jury duty.
visit to illinois.
spending time with my friends and my love.

if i wrote about every single one of those, i would have a novel and you would be here all day and/or night. so i'll spare you. also - nothing on this blog is ever organized so be ready for sporadic thoughts and general jumping around.


i've noticed in my life lately that the most unexpected and unplanned things are often the best. even through the worries and panic, things end up working out and you realize you aren't as in control of your life as you'd like to be. but that's ok because even if you don't know your next step, God does, and will provide. i've had more than one freakout about what i'm going to do after i graduate. i still don't know, if you're wondering. my life is going to change a lot within a year. i will be done with school in a matter of 6 months (um. WHAT?); i'll be moving out of my house of 8 girls; i will be working (fingers crossed haha); people will be moving away, etc. and as much as i try to resist and deny change - believe me, i'm the queen - i know that's how life is and even though it will be hard, it will be good. life is a series of changes...different seasons of life is part of the deal, whether you signed up for it or not. i suppose the time from when you graduate high school and into your mid/late 20s is when you go through the most change and growth. i'm right in the middle of it all - 21 - and i couldn't tell you where i'll be in a year or 5 years. in fact, if you told me, i would probably laugh and tell you you're crazy. 

let me give you a few examples:
>>>finals got the best of me along with the rest of end of the school-year craziness- and i realized i didn't have a plan for the next step - summer. i applied to probably 10-15 places and either didn't get the job or didn't hear back. i was so discouraged by the third week that i almost gave up. i decided to make a profile on care.com to nanny....i was actually contacted by one of my sister's friends, and got connected to other families - and the rest is history. she also owns a wedding planning/event company, so i've gotten to work for her doing that this summer, which i've really enjoyed. it's something i never could have guessed or anticipated, but i'm so thankful everything happened like it did. 

>>>one year ago, i was all ready to go across the world to europe to study abroad - be by myself in another country & continent and explore. i had absolutely zero intention of meeting anyone, much less dating and falling in love any time soon. i met ryan three weeks before i left for 3 months. i wouldn't have chose the timing, but again, i wouldn't have it any other way now. we went on a couple dates before i left, and continued talking even though i was halfway across the world and 8 hours ahead. when i came back in december, we started dating. i remember my mom telling me if i wasn't feeling it on those few dates we went on, i was going to be across the world and wouldn't have to see or talk to him again if i didn't want to. i laugh at that now, because i can't imagine my life without him. he truly is my best friend, my encourager, my supporter, the one i can always count on, and my love. we've been together for almost 9 months and i can't wait to see where life takes us together.

>>>my grandmother recently passed after almost 94 years of life. she was sure something. about a month ago, my dad let all three of us know that her health was starting to seriously decline - she stopped eating/taking her medication - and just to be aware that she was going to pass away soon. she beat the time her doctor gave her...my dad said "she was tougher than that". and she was. she passed on aug. 23 (also my parent's anniversary) and we flew out the 25th (my sister's birthday). all five of us were able to make it out to illinois for her funeral. the time frame was nearly perfect for every one of us to go. i'd like to call it divine timing - it was completely out of our hands, and something we couldn't figure out. we all got to be together - along with our aunts, uncles, cousins, & other loved ones - to celebrate the life of this woman that has always been in ours. and to say a final goodbye to the human she was: kind, generous, selfless, happy, encouraging, easy-going, a woman truly committed to not only her family but to the Lord. we will miss her so much - but her legacy will live on long after. and that is the best thing you can hope for and dream about.

I don't know a lot- but I can tell you God is faithful and God will provide. He has a plan when you don't. He loves. Oh how he loves us.

Tuesday, September 3, 2013

it's been awhile.

and i will blog about something important. or thought-provoking. soon. i promise.